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A Vortex of Hate

A Vortex of Hate

May 26, 2021 (170 words)

Sometimes things don’t go according to plan. At some point the woman I made a lifetime commitment to made her own conscious decision not to be happy with her lot in life. This extended to no longer being in love with me, and not wanting to be married anymore.

But rather than seek a divorce and move on, she chose instead to withdraw-in-place. Lots of passive aggressiveness, lots of unfriendly non-verbal communication.

After years of this, years of living in my own head, praying that one day the dark clouds would part and a willingness to engage with me would return, I have recently concluded this story is not destined for a happy ending. No matter how much I may want things to work out between us.

In coming to terms with this unusual situation, I believe the universe (i.e., God) is satisfied that I have fulfilled my marital obligation, and is giving me permission to remove myself from what has unfortunately become nothing more than a vortex of hate.

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
May 26, 2021

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Sordid Family History

Sordid Family History

May 23, 2021 (246 words)

Many years ago my father fell under the spell of and married an Italian woman. I am told it was a brief courtship, no doubt the result of some romantic voodoo caste by this vixen on a poor, unsuspecting Irishman. They managed to have a long and mostly-happy marriage, though, and raised six healthy children together.

But we kids all bore the scars of my father’s impetuous choice of a life-partner. While he was safely ensconced at work each day, we little ones were confined to close quarters with this feisty little Pisan. And I can tell you we had no idea what to make of the situation.

The culture shock was only magnified when we visited our Italian side of the family. Who were these people? It was like encountering a different species. You want cultural diversity? Try visiting your father’s Irish relatives one weekend, and then the next weekend stopping in to see you mother’s people. On the plus side, I think I speak for my siblings when I say this multi-cultural upbringing prepared us to negotiate just about any social setting, with folks from any racial or ethnic background. Such was the mind-altering, consciousness-expanding impact of close, personal contact with colorful relatives of an Italian persuasion.

There is, however, one lingering side-effect of the early childhood trauma I suffered, which is only now coming into focus. Without quite realizing it, I have always been wary and steered clear of any and all Italian women.

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
May 22, 2021

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The Spectrum of Mental Health

The Spectrum of Mental Health

May 22, 2021 (258 words)

Each of us have our own unique pathologies to deal with in this life, which seem to have been assigned at birth. The lucky ones are able to recognize some of them as time goes on, actively engage the thorniest problems in a constructive manner, and occasionally work through and resolve a few. The not-so-lucky ones remain prisoners their entire lives, trapped by their unfortunate, ingrained patterns of thought.

The well-meaning bystander is often powerless to help such an individual effect any sort of positive change. That’s when the work of a trained and committed mental health professional can make a difference.

An innate pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps mentality has always made me skeptical of the therapeutic industry. But in recent years I have come to appreciate that not all counseling is quackery. My go-to remedy for shaking the blues has always been simple and organic: going out for a long walk and some fresh air, or trying to get a good night’s sleep. But what has worked for me over the years doesn’t necessarily do the trick for others. There are troubled souls who are unable to get themselves untangled on their own. Such hard cases require outside intervention if they are to make any headway in confronting their persistent demons.

I’ve also come around on the use of pharmaceuticals, and now believe an appropriate prescription, when carefully monitored, can help balance the errant, run-away personal chemistry that often contributes to (or even causes?) the inner conflicts that express themselves as a deep unhappiness, and sometimes even as intense anger.

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
May 22, 2021

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Two Sisters

Two Sisters

May 17, 2021 (611 words)

I started with two sisters, but lost one to melanoma in 1998. She was 34 at the time, the youngest of the litter, and our family’s glue. She was in charge of parties and reunions and such. The remaining five of us would be a closer-knit bunch if she were still here today.

There were ten years separating me and my baby sister, but we got along with each other from childhood, and related very easily as adults. My surviving sister, on the other hand, is only a year younger than I, and we’ve never agreed on anything. Over the years I have approached our intermittent encounters with trepidation. This sister could always be counted on to do or say something that would infuriate me, and leave me stewing for days afterwards.

(My father once confided how he saw this sister and I as very much alike. He suggested that was probably the reason I felt at loggerheads with her all the time. This was an interesting perspective I hadn’t considered until he mentioned it.)

Our clan recently assembled in Sedona, AZ, for the late-in-life, first-ever marriage of our youngest brother. (He will turn 60 in October, and met his love on-line five years ago.) It was a casual outdoor ceremony with a beautiful mountaintop view of the famous red hills. At the reception immediately following, something unexpected happened.

At one point I gathered my courage and approached my sister’s table, sat down of my own volition, and actually engaged her in conversation. Not much had changed – we were still disagreeing about everything, and she still displayed that unnerving tendency to get the last word in, no matter the topic. But I was granted some sort of grace that afternoon, allowing me to avoid my familiar pattern of contentiousness.

By maintaining my emotional equilibrium for a change, I was able to see my surviving sister for what she truly is, for what she has always been: a woman of great integrity who takes her work in medicine very seriously, and who tries to make whatever she is involved with better, whenever she can.

Here’s a few other adjectives that came to mind as we chatted that day: practical, unsentimental, and indominable.

Why wasn’t I able to embrace this sister’s essence before? Why have I spent so much time quibbling with and picking apart a few minor stylistic differences in how we each discern life’s grand design?

Developing perspective as time marches on is a healthy pastime. I often think of my late father in this regard, who had a knack for seeing things clearly. Though I didn’t always feel that way about him. As a young buck on the way up, I saw my father as not fulfilling his potential, not using his obvious intelligence to get ahead in the world. In some ways I thought of him back then as a fool and a failure.

Fortunately, by my late thirties I had come to my senses. Not only did I learn to appreciate all aspects of his worldview, I began to feel a deep sense of gratitude for the rich (non-material) legacy he was ready and willing to bequeath me. With my intellectual equilibrium thus properly restored, I was able to reap the benefits of his wit and wisdom over the last twenty years of his life. My father died eight years ago now, and I still haven’t really found anyone else to talk to since he passed.

To mourn the loss of one’s youth is a common affliction. But I’m finding it’s good to get older. I am glad to be exactly the age I am right now.

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
May 17, 2021

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Foolish and Wise

Foolish and Wise

April 30, 2021 (16 words)

When speaking extemporaneously I often feel foolish. When I write, I am able to approximate wisdom.

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
April 30, 2021

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Individuals and the State

Individuals and the State

April 3, 2021 (1,210 words)

Catholic teaching on social justice is a slippery thing in many respects, hard to figure and difficult to pin down. To our modern way of thinking it flip-flops between sticking up for what it refers to as the dignity of the individual, and calling on the state to play a vital role in sorting out what can sometimes be conflicting individual interests.

Take the idea of private property. The Church has always been four-square in favor of maintaining the right to private property, one of many reasons it rejects communism and socialism.

But it does not teach a right to private property that is absolute. This confounds our contemporary understanding on the matter, grounded as it is in the seductive ideologies of (classical) liberalism and libertarianism.

Working from a historical perspective that acknowledges different societies have had different concepts of property, papal teaching points out while no government has the right to abolish private property, there is a role for the state to play in “making clearer” the social duties of property owners – since property has a social as well as an individual character.

In fleshing out this idea, the following explanation was penned by a long-dead pope almost one hundred years ago:

When civil authority adjusts ownership to meet the needs of the public good it acts not as an enemy, but as the friend of private owners; for thus it effectively prevents the possession of private property… from creating intolerable burdens and rushing to its own destruction. It does not therefore abolish but protects private ownership, and far from weakening the right to private property it gives it new strength.
Quadragesimo Anno, no. 49
(1931)

The take-away being property ownership has duties to the common good and is therefore subject to limits. Zoning laws – though not specifically mentioned in the brief excerpt quoted above – would be an example of ‘the state’ performing the function of making clearer “what is licit and what is illicit for property owners.”

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Catholic teaching on social justice is merely an extension of basic Christian anthropology, which understands the human person as being ‘relational’ by nature. We are meant to be in community with others. The individual is never wholly self-sufficient. We need each other to know ourselves, and we are more deeply defined by our membership in a larger unit of humanity.

The family we are born into is the first of many communities we encounter during the course of our lives, and these encounters present opportunities to interact with those whose sensibilities are often very different from our own. This relating can be awkward and difficult, but it produces the empathy that allows us to recognize and respect the inherent dignity of others. This respect expresses itself when we voluntarily restrain/temper our wants and desires to avoid creating intolerable burdens for those around us.

Modern anthropology takes a far different approach to all this. Rather than being relational by nature, the human person is a wholly Independent agent, apart from any “community” he or she may encounter or choose to affiliate with. The family one is born into is of no particular import, since comingling in close quarters is not the first step in a necessary process of learning to acclimate oneself to others.

As the basic entity of human existence – the only natural human entity there is – the individual is inherently free and equal in an ungoverned and non-relational state. In this context achieving social justice and honoring human dignity is a simple matter of being allowed to act on one’s inherent freedom to do whatever one pleases.

Any custom or tradition is likely to impose an unwanted restriction. Any authority or law is an unnatural restraint on the individual’s ability to pursue and achieve his or her own ends. The best form of government is no government at all. The next best form of government (i.e., liberal democracy) is one geared toward expanding the conditions that lead to a further realization of the individual’s wants and desires. The only legitimate goal of public policy, then, is to facilitate the greatest possible pursuit and satisfaction of individual appetites, with no mediating affiliations to complicate things.

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No wonder Catholic teaching on social justice makes no sense to us today. It runs directly counter to our contemporary understanding of the individual, and of the proper relationship of the individual to the larger community.

Yet Christian anthropology and modern anthropology do share a common objective: the promotion of justice based on the dignity of the human person – even if their respective paths could not be more divergent. The deep thinkers who dreamed up and continue to refine modern anthropology are surely inspired by a wish to see things improve. But they are also motivated by an unshakeable conviction that what came before has proven itself ineffective, if not downright mid-guided.

The medieval idea of a “Great Chain of Being,” which saw every aspect of reality as reflective of a hierarchy with divine perfection at the top, was not sufficiently egalitarian for their taste.

The old-timey Christian concept of the “common good” also needed an update, since it was based on what might be called ‘trickle down virtue.’ If we all keep the other guy in mind before we act in our self-interest, and if public policy is geared to what’s best for all, the individual will eventually see some amelioration of their circumstances. This process was deemed too slow and unreliable by the deep thinkers and cultural revolutionaries. The new paradigm they came up with doesn’t take any chances, in that it focuses on an individual’s immediate situation right out of the gate.

Following this logic, we modern men and women have come to believe our freedom is the one, true God. We refuse to submit to any authority that does not derive its mandate from the will of the people. Even though this amounts to an unfailing tendency to seek liberation from any limitations on the achievement of desire. Oddly enough, our economic life becomes the primary agent of this liberation – in how it expands opportunities and the materials needed to realize existing desires, and in how it creates new ones we did not know we had.

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All this talk of appetites and desires and liberation may prompt the casual reader to think I am discussing sexual gratification. Especially since Catholic anthropology is being referenced, and we all know the Church’s dour reputation for being opposed to people having any fun in their sex lives.

This is a common misunderstanding, and it’s yet another reason the casual reader will be surprised to learn from Catholic teaching on social justice it is our economic life, and not our sometimes-wayward choices regarding sexual mores, that has been the primary agent of liberation from any restraint on behavior.

Even more unexpected is this final irony. The lack of prudence and personal restraint in the economic realm – celebrated as a victory over hidebound tradition and political tyranny, and a major advance in the heralded cause of individual rights – is the very thing standing in the way of achieving the social justice all proponents of modern anthropology and liberal democracy routinely cite as their highest priority.

(Based on my reading of Why Liberalism Failed by Patrick J. Deenen, and An Economics of Justice and Charity by Thomas Storck.)

Robert J. Cavanaugh, Jr
April 3, 2021

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